We’re all familiar with the illusion of perfection in fashion magazines, TV commercials, and media in general. The airbrushed size double zero stick figure that we see in a fashion spread registers in most of our minds as ‘fake’. For some, it sticks and causes major body image issues- and for most of us (even though we know it’s fake!) it creates a nagging thought of, “Well I wish I at least had abs..” or something along those lines.
‘Personal Style‘ blogs have put a whole new spin on the way we (or at least the way that I) view fashion entirely. Being able to receive style inspiration from real women with real bodies? I’ll take that over a magazine any day! Being able to read someone’s blog, get to know their style, view their outfits, read about their daily life- there’s a personal level there that’s completely unique to blogging vs anything else. It’s real.
But is it? I’ve recently come across a few comments here and there around the web that seem to hold a hint of uncertainty. There’s a tension directed at personal blogs all over the internet (not just personal style and fashion!) from readers who are curious to know- “Is your life really that perfect?“. It got me to thinking about my own blog, because I tend to try and not post negative thoughts or drama-laden stories. It made me start to wonder, have we shifted from one illusion to another? Are there, for example, new mothers out there feeling helpless and exhausted who read and leave a blog feeling like a total failure after reading another new mom who simply writes about her ability to cook, clean, take care of a newborn, run a blog, spend time with her amazing husband, and also find time to relax. Is it inspirational – or a slap in the face? And this isn’t to say that if you can do all of those things that you shouldn’t or that you shouldn’t be proud of that fact and write about it. (If I can maintain a blog after I have a baby, I expect some sort of giant trophy- thanks!) I just wonder if we’re leaving out some of the honesty at times, the struggles. Not because we want to fake everyone out or be perfect, but just because it’s natural to write about the good times.
I’ve tried to pride myself on letting you all in to the ‘real me’. When I have a week where I just feel down and out- I usually talk on the blog about how I haven’t been feeling myself. Sometimes I write about Nate and I needing to slow down and reconnect. These are all small details of my very real life that I’m happy to share here (and on twitter) because I feel like people need to see the imperfections along with the happy go lucky days of rainbows and kittens. (By the way, there’s nothing wrong with rainbows, kittens, or cupcakes!!!) We certainly have rainbow kitten days, but come on- we all struggle on the daily with something!
Which brings me to my full circle ending – people, come on. I understand how it’s possible to look at / read a lot of blogs and feel like a big fat fail compared to that person. But I ask myself, and I ask you- why are we comparing ourselves to other people? Yes, it’s human nature. But no, you can not honestly believe that your favorite happy go lucky blogger never has an argument with their significant other, never gets a zit, never has cramps, never has an “ugly day”, and never just feels like staying in bed with the curtains drawn! We all need to keep a reality check on ourselves and realize that no one is trying to fool anyone here- we’re all just simply trying to share the joyous tidbits of our lives while trying not to focus too much on the harder to deal with issues that we may be tired of thinking about. (Not to mention, some things are just too personal- and if you’re airing your dirty laundry on the internet then that’s a whole different story!)
So, the next time you read a blog and feel a bit envious – just remember that we’re all human and no one is perfect. But we do all want to be happy, I think. We all want to share the good things on our blogs, with a small serving of the harder things. Let’s keep it real- but of course, let’s keep it positive too!